Sometimes my parents protect me a little too much. I sometimes wish they would treat me more like an adult, being I am fourteen. I tried to talk to them about it but they just can't seem to get out of the habit. What should I do? --E.
LEANNA KAY says:
I have a two part plan for you.
PART ONE: Stop talking and start acting. No, I don't mean stop talking to your parents forever and I'm not suggesting you start an acting career! What I mean is for the next two weeks, show them how mature you are. Look for ways around the house you can help. Make dinner. Take on the laundry. Tackle that cleaning project your Mom keeps saying she should do but can never find the time. If you make an effort to act more like an adult, your parents will start seeing you that way.
PART TWO: After you've spent a couple of weeks showing them what a mature, responsible young lady you really are, talk to them again. Specifically narrow down the areas where you'd like them to treat you less like a baby. You didn't say in your question what those areas are. I assume you're not asking to backpack alone through Europe or obedience train wild dogs using a meat coat. 'Cause if that's the case, I'm with your parents on this one!
But if your request is more reasonable - say you want to walk home from school alone. Talk to them about why you think you're old enough. Ask them why they're concerned and be prepared to brainstorm ways to overcome their worries. For instance, take the route home from school they suggest. Carry a cellphone. Call them when you get there.
And whatever you do, keep communicating with your parents even if you don't seem to be getting through. Because the most mature thing you can do (and some adults have trouble with this!), is to calmly try to make your point even when it doesn't seem like you're being heard!
“I am homeschooled and don’t have very much of a social life. Do you have any suggestions for free homeschool co-ops in South Bend, IN?”-Elle
Great question Elle! God created us to crave friendship! “Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up the other; but woe to one who is alone and falls and does not have another to help. Again, if two lie together, they keep warm; but how can one keep warm alone? And though one might prevail against another, two will withstand one. A threefold cord is not quickly broken.” Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 NRSV
Why did God choose Mary to be Jesus's mother? I know she was a good person, but there were a lot of other good women around at that time too. So why Mary? --- Lauren, age 10
That's a good question. When she was chosen, Mary was an ordinary teenaged girl. She hadn't won any beauty contests. She'd never gotten the trophy for best speller. She didn't even have a Nobel Prize.
So why Mary and not someone else? Mary was special because she possessed the qualities God wanted in the mother of his Son: Courage, willingness, and love for God.
Why these particular traits?