I want to give my Mom something cool for Mother’s Day...something that shows her how much I love her. But I don’t have any money. What should I do?
Lisa Godfrees says:
Your mother loves you and anything you do that shows you were thinking of her will melt her heart. You don't have to buy her something. In fact, sometimes it's better that you don't.
Think about what your mother likes to do best. Does she love to read? Write her a story. Does she love to garden? Spend a day working with her outside. Does she need a break? Offer to make lunch. Surprise her with breakfast in bed. Make her a card.
You are the expert on your mom. You might not have any money to spend, but you can be rich in creativity.
Sometimes my parents protect me a little too much. I sometimes wish they would treat me more like an adult, being I am fourteen. I tried to talk to them about it but they just can't seem to get out of the habit. What should I do? --E.
LEANNA KAY says:
I have a two part plan for you.
PART ONE: Stop talking and start acting. No, I don't mean stop talking to your parents forever and I'm not suggesting you start an acting career! What I mean is for the next two weeks, show them how mature you are. Look for ways around the house you can help. Make dinner. Take on the laundry. Tackle that cleaning project your Mom keeps saying she should do but can never find the time. If you make an effort to act more like an adult, your parents will start seeing you that way.
PART TWO: After you've spent a couple of weeks showing them what a mature, responsible young lady you really are, talk to them again. Specifically narrow down the areas where you'd like them to treat you less like a baby. You didn't say in your question what those areas are. I assume you're not asking to backpack alone through Europe or obedience train wild dogs using a meat coat. 'Cause if that's the case, I'm with your parents on this one!
But if your request is more reasonable - say you want to walk home from school alone. Talk to them about why you think you're old enough. Ask them why they're concerned and be prepared to brainstorm ways to overcome their worries. For instance, take the route home from school they suggest. Carry a cellphone. Call them when you get there.
And whatever you do, keep communicating with your parents even if you don't seem to be getting through. Because the most mature thing you can do (and some adults have trouble with this!), is to calmly try to make your point even when it doesn't seem like you're being heard!
“I am homeschooled and don’t have very much of a social life. Do you have any suggestions for free homeschool co-ops in South Bend, IN?”-Elle
Great question Elle! God created us to crave friendship! “Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up the other; but woe to one who is alone and falls and does not have another to help. Again, if two lie together, they keep warm; but how can one keep warm alone? And though one might prevail against another, two will withstand one. A threefold cord is not quickly broken.” Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 NRSV