Hello fellow resolution makers! It's been a few months now since the big ball drop and the start of 2014 so I wanted to check and see how you are keeping your New Year’s resolution. This year, I've committed to being different! (Romans 12:2) So what was your resolution?
One of the most hurtful things ever is being stabbed in the back by a "friend." The pain of trusting someone only to find out they have used you or are only interested in their own benefit is truly devastating.
Jesus understands. One of his disciples betrayed him by a kiss, receiving money to hand him over to people who would ultimately kill him. Another disciple named Peter denied even knowing Jesus during his darkest trial.
Sometimes my parents protect me a little too much. I sometimes wish they would treat me more like an adult, being I am fourteen. I tried to talk to them about it but they just can't seem to get out of the habit. What should I do? --E.
LEANNA KAY says:
I have a two part plan for you.
PART ONE: Stop talking and start acting. No, I don't mean stop talking to your parents forever and I'm not suggesting you start an acting career! What I mean is for the next two weeks, show them how mature you are. Look for ways around the house you can help. Make dinner. Take on the laundry. Tackle that cleaning project your Mom keeps saying she should do but can never find the time. If you make an effort to act more like an adult, your parents will start seeing you that way.
PART TWO: After you've spent a couple of weeks showing them what a mature, responsible young lady you really are, talk to them again. Specifically narrow down the areas where you'd like them to treat you less like a baby. You didn't say in your question what those areas are. I assume you're not asking to backpack alone through Europe or obedience train wild dogs using a meat coat. 'Cause if that's the case, I'm with your parents on this one!
But if your request is more reasonable - say you want to walk home from school alone. Talk to them about why you think you're old enough. Ask them why they're concerned and be prepared to brainstorm ways to overcome their worries. For instance, take the route home from school they suggest. Carry a cellphone. Call them when you get there.
And whatever you do, keep communicating with your parents even if you don't seem to be getting through. Because the most mature thing you can do (and some adults have trouble with this!), is to calmly try to make your point even when it doesn't seem like you're being heard!
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